tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post1319461732654966123..comments2012-10-24T15:22:48.425-07:00Comments on Blog Life of a Med Wife: A Word On SOsCami!http://www.blogger.com/profile/15026698842184458601noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-53737547158343153932010-11-20T16:12:42.358-08:002010-11-20T16:12:42.358-08:00Same story here - no organized groups. And a lot o...Same story here - no organized groups. And a lot of my husband's co-residents are parents or single. It does make it harder to hang out. Not that I'm opposed to having friends with kids, but I don't seem to have anything to offer them, you know?<br /><br />Wish I knew the answer to feeling included. But I'm a big ol' hermit... So I just stay home!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-29276594755373904792010-11-16T15:41:52.501-08:002010-11-16T15:41:52.501-08:00Oh honey that is awful!!! My husband's school ...Oh honey that is awful!!! My husband's school doesn't have a club, but I have managed to meet some girls. I actually got really lucky because our group of about 6 couples are all married and only one has a daughter and another on the way. <br /><br />That really stinks that you got pushed out like that :( I wish I could tell you something...besides keep looking. Because they really do make a difference. <br /><br />And I know it's not much of a consolation... but we're always here in bloggy world (even though sometimes I feel outnumbered in this mommy world too)Keelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06755470782008399889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-33982346406740199702010-11-12T17:26:40.692-08:002010-11-12T17:26:40.692-08:00I do notice I tend to form friendships easier with...I do notice I tend to form friendships easier with med wives who do not have children. So you are onto something very real. Personally, I dread having my life revolve around kids so much that it's all I talk about, to the point that it scares off potential childless friends!<br /><br />However, in medical school, more and more students are getting in at later ages and it kind of makes sense that they are married with kids. That is probably why there are considerably fewer childless med couples. <br /><br />The above commenter is on the money. Medicine is only one thing. All of my uni friends are not in medicine. I have a great (even better) time with them because they aren't in competition over who is prettiest, richest, etc.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17913129188586123637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-10578737357072375172010-11-12T11:24:35.287-08:002010-11-12T11:24:35.287-08:00Ok. So. We had the BEST SO in the entire history ...Ok. So. We had the BEST SO in the entire history of the world. I loved it so much I thrilled to be able to be president of it! AND I have 4 kids.<br /><br />On that note....<br /><br />I was sick to death of talking about kids. Some of it had to do with that my kids are older- 11-7 and we were over playdates and sleeping and feeding woes... but most of it had to do with- I am still ME. And I want people to know ME and I want to know THEM, not their kids or my kids. I want to grow as a person and learn to craft something or cook something or exercise something or shop til I drop with good girly gossip during it.<br /><br />So- my biggest advice to all those groups is always- great to find commonalities BUT keep the kid talk to a minimum at functions and events... you'll discover who you are and who other people are by doing that more!<br /><br />Just my humble opinion ;0) BUT..... GOOD FOR YOU for stepping up and trying and making the effort. And remember- there are women out there who feel the same as you, it's just gonna take a bit more work to dig and find them, and I'm sorry it is that way for you. HUGS.Mandy, The Mother of All Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11269179548311668430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-24464865365825094342010-11-12T10:53:55.522-08:002010-11-12T10:53:55.522-08:00Oh my gosh. Amen, sister! No organized SO groups ...Oh my gosh. Amen, sister! No organized SO groups over here either! We're in our first year of my hubby's schooling. We are one of four married couples at this campus of ONE HUNDRED first year students. That means there are only two other wives (the wife is the MD candidate for one couple). I've met one of them once, and that was it! Zip, zilch, nothing else. I got going with a group of wives whose husbands are all further along in schooling (most residents). Out of the dozen of us, I am the ONLY one without kids. They all have at least two. Since August, there have been three additional babies added to the mix. While it is good to have other wives who actually understand and get it, medicine is really the only thing in life where we relate.<br /><br />If we lived close, we would be bosom buddies. For sure :) It is nice to know I am not the only sole-wife out there!MJ @ MD School Mrshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842713271510623239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-4449331288042676642010-11-12T09:00:10.831-08:002010-11-12T09:00:10.831-08:00I actually have the opposite problem. Since we mov...I actually have the opposite problem. Since we moved to NY for residency we're one of the few couple who are actually married. Only one couple has children. We don't have a support system or club and it's hard sometimes. I've been trying to track down e-mails and such but my husband only sees his fellow interns occasionally since they all are on different rotations.Drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138050246830502228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4623845326611459187.post-37337909623138281962010-11-12T08:59:35.548-08:002010-11-12T08:59:35.548-08:00My soon-to-be husband will start at a school in Fl...My soon-to-be husband will start at a school in Florida this upcoming summer/fall...<br /><br />I don't know what to say to you other than I'm dearly hoping I don't run into the same scenario as you! B and I don't plan on having kids for... years at least. So the isolation of having no sans-kiddo friends would do me in.<br /><br />Props to you for handling it maturely! <br /><br />I guess if I were you, I'd probably meet up with the other medwives occasionally, but build a strong base of friends whose share other interests of yours. (like, knitting? or reading? or painting the town red? or hiking? or whatever it is you do.)<br /><br />That way you have a good mix of people who "get you" but don't always have to rely on the medwifemommies for that support you crave.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03561470902921572737noreply@blogger.com